✨Love is not seeing eye to eye. Love is not always feeling in love. Love is not just fun and games. Love is not always satisfying. Love is not what we see in the movies, read in romance novels or write about in poetry.

Love is risky. Love is challenging. Love is testing. Love is wobbly. Love is sometimes inconvenient. Love is often overwhelming. Love is quite scary. Love is complex. Love is work.

Love is grounding. Love is comforting. Love is wholesome. Love is acceptance and compromise. Love is patience. Love is kindness and giving. Love is meaning. Love is innate and nurturing. Love is fruitful. Love is surprising. Love is exposing and intimate. Love is bottomless. Love is interconnectedness. Love is mighty and gentle. Love is firm and soft. Love is spiritual. Love is dark and light. Love is balance. Love is burning hot fire and cool spring waters.

Love is beautiful and divine. Love is you and love is me. Love is song and love is dance. Love is faithful. Love is life. Love is essence. Love is God.

Love is synthesizing, electrifying and tranquilizing.

Love is sacred.✨

I didn’t like this feeling…

Have you ever been hurt by someone? Do you still feel resentful or angry or in pain?

Last week I was feeling particularly uncomfortable with my feeling of dislike for a specific individual and wished I didn’t feel this way. I know that it isn’t good for me, the person or the world for me to harbour these negative feelings.

So I decide to do something good about it. Something to promote healing and feelings of forgiveness and oneness within myself.

I lit a candle for this person. I closed my eyes and prayed for this person. I spoke to the Creator and asked for my pain to wash away.

I wished the person I dislike all the best in the world and meditated on the idea that we are all one and we all make mistakes.

I started to feel so much lighter, so much loving-er, so much better. I set myself free.

The spiritual ritual of lighting candles is powerful.. and this coupled with pure and good intention for self and world healing can work miracles.

I am thankful.

Next time you are in pain ask yourself 3 questions.

Oftentimes we find ourselves in a position of emotional malaise. It can be for all kinds of reasons – big and small, mundane and serious.  Uncomfortable, painful, unwanted feelings and experiences have the potential to encourage us to blame, judge and reject the other, certain circumstances and even ourselves.   If you find yourself in this position, here are three questions that may hopefully inspire a fresh perspective that lead to positive answers for you:

1.  Does this incident define who I am?

Many of us attribute our experience with life to the very core of who we are.  We have erroneously adopted the false premise that the way someone speaks to us, the outcomes of our decisions and even our appearances are in direct correlation to who we are as human beings.  We make the colossal mistake of defining our whole selves by the relationships we have, by our failures, by the goings on of our day to day lives and by our pain.  The truth is these external things do not define you at all.  They might indicate the quality or state of your life experience at this present moment, but they are not YOU.

You are a magnificent, spiritual creation, above all circumstance and phenomenon; wonderful and whole, regardless of what life throws at you.  You are your triumphs; you are the beauty and strength in every time you have made the choice to pick yourself up after you have fallen – and you have done this countless times.  You see, you are what you do with the broken glass – you will never be the broken glass itself. 

Take comfort in knowing that the only constant reality is that of your uniqueness, your potential and your intrinsic worth.  Pain will become a mere memory – it is not and never will be what defines you.  When you internalize this, you will consequently recognise that the pain or problem is infinitely smaller and belongs to a new, more manageable context.

2.  What can I learn from this experience?

Life is a process, a development, a journey.  Whatever you encounter comes to teach you or heal you – remember this.  If we push the experience away it will stubbornly return with more force and urgency – yes, the Universe has a funny way in trying to better things for us.

It is important to try to courageously accept our trials, tribulations and testing junctures, for they are catalysts for growth, light and long-term internal wellness.  Once we learn this, we will be able to acknowledge the universal truth that with every bad experience or distressing season is a lesson to be learned; a lesson so necessary and valuable that it had no choice but to nudge (or slap) you so very impolitely to make it’s point, and perhaps wake you up – alerting and elevating you to new paradigms of consciousness.

Remarkably, within you is the inborn energy, innate wisdom and boundless aptitude to overcome and prevail, sitting within you like hidden precious gems; holding the promise of a more meaningful, fulfilling and sparkling chapter.

3.  How can I progress positively?

Practice the pause.  Sit down or go outside, place yourself in a quiet milieu and simply pause for a while.  Take a deep breath or ten, and just let go.  Allow peace to seep through your mind and respite to enter this moment.

Then, while observing your emotions and giving them a right to be, focus on remaining calm by recognising that the power within you is stronger and more triumphant than the circumstances around you.  Sitting with our emotions can be difficult, but practice does wonders.

Start speaking to yourself with loving, reassuring words of hope, positivity and praise (and don’t forget to make a mental note to surround yourself with people who do the same).  Spend some time in nature, do something you love, take a nap, pray.  Write a list of all the things you are grateful for.  Speak to a trusted individual for unloading-relief, encouragement, support.  These are just a few ways to positively take a hold of the situation.

If the pain originates via someone who has hurt you, set yourself free by forgiving them and accepting the idea that they could not have been any better at that time – like all human beings, they showcased their best with the tools they had at their disposal; a reflection of their character at that point, and nothing to do with you per se.  Nevertheless,  disengage and distance yourself from negativity.

Many times, a painful experience is there for you to gather your energy in the pursuit of loving yourself more – be mindful of and deliberate with your inner voice, for it has the influence to create.   Life is infinitely better when we love ourselves and when our internal conversations are dignified.

Whatever the issue at hand, the ordeal, the struggle, all can be sensibly clarified or even dissolved when we nurture healthy thought patterns and embrace the changing and challenging motions of life.  If your mind is determined and your heart is open, you can blossom and prosper even in the most difficult of circumstances.

Be open to and receiving of the experience’s message… discover the underlying lesson and you can transform the pain.  Sometimes however, just accepting certain things as they are, even with no clear answers or explanations, is what we need in order to move on.

In our difficulties, there lies tremendous potential for a personal kind of liberating redemption.    

A birthday blessing from my heart to yours.

Today is a very special day for me. It is my birthday! It is completely and wholly my birthday, as both my Hebrew and secular birthdays coincide this year. This is an occurrence that happens approximately every 19 years. It feels magnificent.

It is customary in Jewish tradition for one celebrating her birthday to bless those around her. The day a person is born is the day that the Creator decided that this particular person was required here on earth for a special and unique mission that only this person could bring to fruition… and so it is believed that on this dynamic day of her birth, powerful energy emanates to and from her.

Here is a little birthday prayer I wrote for you…

I pray that you learn to love yourself so authentically and unconditionally, that you are overflowing with healthy, sparkling love that reaches and spreads to the entirety of your being, to your loved ones and to the entire world. So bright and warm may this love be that it comforts and heals any broken parts of you and inspires anyone who meets you.

I pray that you deeply discover your magical uniqueness, your true passions and the divine purpose of your life… and that you embrace it and allow it to bring you joy and meaning in the most satisfying of ways. So safe and whole may you feel within yourself that you connect to your inner light and wisdom at all times, and allow it to guide you harmoniously.

I pray that you grow in your relationship with your Creator; knowing, feeling and trusting in His infinite wisdom, in His endless love for you, and the journey He is taking you on in this life. So strong may your confidence in the Creator be, it brings you calm and inner peace as you trust in the process of life and flow in serenity wherever it may take you.

I pray that you let go of all accumulated baggage, pain, triggers and traumas in any and all ways… and exchange these wounds and memories for a healthy mindset and new positive thought patterns that bring you many fresh, exhilarating, fulfilling experiences and worldviews. Experiences, relationships and states of reality that pleasurably touch the core of your being, and unravels the beauty of yourself and your life before your very precious eyes.

I pray that you reach and revel in a place of empowerment and drive to reach all your goals, dreams and ambitions in a fashion that is thrilling, relaxed and enlightening. May this journey to success and achievement bring out your innocent inner child, your wise woman (or wise man); your playful, strong and centred nature. May you honour and hone all that you are. 

Today especially, I pray that we all be blessed to come together in unity, love, peace and gratitude… celebrating the gift, enchantment and miracle of life! Even when it’s hard, even when it hurts.

With so much love and praise for my family, friends and clients who continue to inspire and teach me… and, most importantly, to the Most High; the Bestower of all things; the Infinite Loving Light; my trusted and adored Creator whom without all ceases to exist,
♥ ♥ ♥

Sometimes, we just need to let go.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up.  It means realizing that, sometimes in life, we need to release and renew.  I want to share with you a poem by Safire Rose, which touches my inner heart… I hope it inspires you to take care of yourself and let go.

She Let Go

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She
didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss
the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the
prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.